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Why Should You Give to Receive?

The Law May Not be Fair, But it Does Hate Takers The common rule is that you must be ruthless during negotiations to succeed. This belief couldn’t be farther from the truth; not only will you destroy your relationships, but you’ll also fail to have a legally enforceable deal. Do You Have a Deal? You’ve […]

How to Play Dumb

For years I’ve wanted to bleach my hair blonde. I never did, however, because I feared that blonde hair would unfairly labelled me as a dumb helpless woman. I feared this until I realized: being dumb and helpless is great. Because it works during negotiations. Even for guys. Weird Tactics to a Successful Negotiation Chris Voss, author of  Never Split The Difference, was the […]

Whatever You Do – Don’t Do This

Hate your job or your client? Stuck in your career and you’re struggling to get ahead? Whatever you do don’t do this: complain. A recent study shows that complaining does nothing to get you ahead or get you the success and outcome you crave; rather, it does the exact opposite. Read on to find out how […]

Talking about fees with your client

A deep and dark confession:  I’d prefer to talk about the birds and the bees with my parents than about fees with my clients. Why? I hate talking about money and I’m very good at making every classic mistakes when it comes to the numbers talk – I give things away before anyone asks and I […]

Why You Didn’t Get the Deal

Building Rapport Isn’t Enough You got the meeting, you met with the critical decision maker and you had a fabulous conversation about his kids, hobbies and his company’s needs. Yet, you still lost the deal to a competitor. The most likely reason why you lost is because you left him confused.  Confusion is highly problematic because, as […]

Why you should be an expert

People will almost always defer to and draw their opinions from the expert. This is true even if the expert is completely wrong. We like to adopt and follow the lead of “experts” because it’s easier.  Someone has done the work of thinking for us and we are freed from this tedious and heavy burden. The lure of appealing to authority in our […]

Get a Referral Without Being Awkward

The Steps to Asking for a Referral Without Being the Obnoxious Pushy-Salesperson Step 1: Be Excellent Before you even think about asking for a referral you have to do be excellent at what you do. If you’re not, the cilent would is unlikely to be motivated to spread the word about what you do and how well. Step 2: […]

Networking is SO 1990s

It’s time to give up the dreaded networking events, sweaty palms and overly rehearsed (read: obviously contrived) conversation starters you learned in Forbes Magazine back in the 90s. The new currency for building a network is genuine interest in others, compassion and providing value before asking for what you want. Use these principles and a few innovative ways […]

So, you screwed up and your client is a jerk

What is the main ingredient in Zappos, Barbara Corcoran and Victoria Secret’s explosive success? A focus on delivering unprecedented customer service … even when they screw up, even when the client’s a jerk and even when the client has unrealistic expectations. Given the ability for anonymous bad reviews to spread like wildfire on social media […]